There should be an intervening law on making a person your godfather or god mother..
I’ve experienced having a godfather that doesn’t acknowledge my prescence whenever my father drags me to one of their family gatherings. As sensitive human being, I read his body language as a sign of unwantedness.
Unconsentedly having 5 godchildren, I understand the 58-year-old man. I too, don’t like to have a responsiblity that I am not even prepared for.
Filipinos, as close-knit people as they are, give to each other. This applies to shedding money during christmas to buy gifts for their godchildren, and escalates to taking responsibility for the tuition fees of the child in some cases.
It depends on the relatives, but ours are not necessarily the conscientuous and thoughtful types. It is an added burden when your relatives think of you as a bank.
Two years after graduating from college, I landed two reputable jobs consecutively. One, was from radio, the next, was a writing gig for a big UK company. But as my career started to grow, so did my godchild count.
Four months ago, our distant relative announced that she has already listed me as the main godparent of his sister’s new-born son… What the hell? I didn’t even get to see the mother of the child.
Soon, another was added to the list when my pregnant cousin announced that I was going to be her baby’s godparent.
I’m getting the feeling that my relatives have a hidden agenda behind making me their child’s god mother.
My experience often lacks this. I don’t know about other people, but I don’t want to take on a responsibility out of “kaikog”,
I have a number of cebuano culture woes, and this is part of it.
Filipinos in general, take pride in the people they choose to become their godparents… I understand this, but what about the other party? do the ones taking responsibility have a say on this?